Episode 162

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12th Mar 2025

When You and Your Partner See Money Differently | E162 Brian Page

Love and money - a perfect match, right?

If only it were that simple. Money is personal for everyone. We grow up with different values, learn different money habits from our parents, and develop our own financial preferences.

So when two people with unique money mindsets come together, disagreements are bound to happen. Maybe one of you is a saver while the other loves to spend, leading to frustration over “wasting” or “hoarding” money. Or maybe you can’t agree on whether to play it safe with savings or take financial risks.

If you love your partner, the last thing you want is constant fights about money. You want to figure this out together. That’s why in today’s episode, I’m talking with Brian Page about how to find common ground when you and your partner have different financial perspectives.

Brian is the Founder of Modern Husbands, an organization that helps busy dual-career couples manage money and home life as a team.

We dive into some really practical topics like how spenders and savers can find peace, what research says about combining vs. separating finances, and how to create a fair balance with household responsibilities.

This conversation was especially helpful for me because my partner, Gaby, and I have been navigating these conversations ourselves as last summer marked 5 years of dating.

I hope you enjoy my conversation with the lead dad and modern husband…Brian Page.

Key Takeaways:

  • How couples with different money mindsets can find common ground
  • What to do when you and your partner have conflicting financial goals
  • What research says about combining finances vs. keeping them separate
  • How to fairly divide financial responsibilities as a couple
  • Ways to optimize your finances together
  • How to share household responsibilities as a team


More of Brian:

Modern Husbands: https://www.modernhusbands.com/


More of The Struggle is Real:

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Connect with Justin on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinleepeters/

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